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SkyeNet 5/20/2018 6:25 AM

Indeed.

You need your own time as well.

Essentially - don't gut your own social life simply for the sake of your tulpa.

One more thing as well

6:25 AM

How do I know if she's even with me?

What do you mean?

Sometimes I just don't even feel anything

It is literally, physically impossible for her to not be with you.

6:27 AM

Early on, she might just be a concept - but she will develop with time as well.

There doesn't need to be a special feeling for your tulpa to be there; even if she wasn't, it's better to assume that she is.

yes, that. Even if you can't feel her, assume she's there. If she's not, she will be soon.

I do feel like I'm being watched over sometimes when I talk to her

6:30 AM

Is that normal?

6:30 AM

~~no, you have ninjas in your mind~~

yes, it's a good thing.

6:31 AM

if you can try to pinpoint that feeling, "where" it's coming from and so on, then direct your talking towards that.

Hmm

6:33 AM

Alright

If I'm being completely honest

6:02 PM

I'm just scared

of?

My abilities

scared in which direction?

The fact that you care this much leads me to say that you can definitely do it.

hello Bduddy. i don't think we've been introduced

What if I go on like this for years and all I get just a character and I'm sat there deluding myself that this is her All these promises I've made to her, about escaping and showing her the world just turn into empty words of sorrow and self doubt I don't even know if she's there and if she is what if she's just afraid to speak to me? What if I'm overwhelming her to the point of silence? What if she just thinks of me as some creep? What if she doesn't even want to see me?

@Deleted User.

Sorry, went on a bit of a tangent there...

Nathan, you're having a panic attack. None of this is logical. Take some deep breaths, OK?

Take a step back.

Doubt is the mindkiller. Bduddy is right. The fact that you're worried this much means that she will love you in return

Breathe.

6:08 PM

Hold up your finger in front of your eyes and try to focus on it rather than anything else.

6:09 PM

See if you can make it a clear image.

6:09 PM

Once you've managed that (or realized that it's not actually possible), let's come back to this from a different perspective.

6:10 PM

Try to look at yourself as if you were another person. Why do you think they are worried about these things? What is the base motivation?

I'm alright I'm a bit calmer now

Excellent.

6:10 PM

Let's work through this, then.

Alright

What is the base motivation behind the nervousness?

6:11 PM

Everything you mentioned before is specific. What is the general basis for them?

I always wanted to introduce myself and my reason behind Nathalie but I always thought it would sound weird...

we're all weird, we're all crazy. no worries, mate

Alright

6:12 PM

Give me a moment

no problem

6:13 PM

sort yourself out, take as much time as you need

Ya, being weird seems like kind of a requirement

just a touch :P

Hah. It's typical. Nobody tends to look up what a tulpa is and decide to make one out of a societally normal thought process.

6:16 PM

Perhaps that will change in the future, but I doubt it.

I actually had my server introduction saved on Google docs but I never opened it

@SkyeNet One day... (edited)

Thought I would get told it's impossible

oh?

If you'd like, you can give us the summary.

very little is impossible

6:18 PM

arguable, i know

Here

I suppose I am assuming that you aren't planning to make them solely for sex or to support everything you say.

Hey, I'm Nathan, but you can call me Nate. A friend told me about tulpas and what they are and I was fascinated because... well, I move around a lot and I want somebody who'll stick with me for a lifetime. Someone I can share my feelings with and someone who'll care for me, someone for me to love and someone to love me back. My tulpas name, is Nathalie. And I'm hoping we can both make your acquaintance.

...seems pretty standard really

that's perfectly acceptable

6:18 PM

^

Wait...

6:18 PM

What...?

What, you think we all made tulpas for a giggle?

those are basically the most common reasons

we all want that

Yes. That is extremely typical for people desiring to make a tulpa.

A lot of people make tulpas just cause, in this community...

Don't worry about that, hah.

yes and no

This is true. I suppose I'm thinking of the people who are thinking through their reasons.

6:20 PM

As opposed to people who act on impulse without considering consequences.

So I'm not weird for wanting a girl to like me?

of course not

No.

Huh

Not that it even has to be a girl.

as long as you aren't abusive

Yes.

No of course not

6:21 PM

The thought makes me sick

good. then you're sorted

So - Nathan. Am I correct in my extrapolation that your nervousness is due to a strong desire for your tulpa to develop without incident in order for you to have a consistent and reliable companion?

6:23 PM

And, a resulting fear of somehow failing in this?

Yeah, pretty much...

well, I can tell you, that with the good attitude that you have, there's really not much that could go wrong.

Indeed.

aye

You obviously care, you're doing it for the right reasons. Your tulpa will share a head with you, remember that. She'll understand your reasons, your emotions, and why you might not always be at 100%. It's highly unlikely you'll get any unwarranted blame or negative reactions.

They understand intent over everything else

So, I mentioned this just earlier today - but, simply don't make assumptions about any possible responses. Once they are clear enough, you'll be able to be certain. Don't worry about speed.

6:28 PM

The goal is making sure you have a tulpa, and that they are an independent companion.

6:28 PM

That, combined with your outlook as well as kind and respectful treatment of your tulpa, will lead to success.

6:29 PM

It may take some time. But, that's okay.

I haven't gotten any real response either... At first I think I felt something then after that I just feel nothing

well, what did you feel?